Finding My Way Back to Ease
For a long time, I thought love was supposed to feel intense—full of effort, uncertainty, and constant adjustment. I believed compatibility was the key: shared interests, similar ways of thinking, aligned goals. It sounded like the safest path. But somewhere along the way, I learned that compatibility alone doesn’t guarantee peace. Ease doesn’t come from fitting perfectly together—it comes from being able to move, change, and grow without fear. Over the past year, I’ve felt myself slowly returning to that ease. Life gave me the unexpected gift of reconnecting with old friends I hadn’t spoken to or seen in nearly a decade. What touched me most wasn’t how well we still “matched,” but how naturally we met each other as we are now. We had all changed. And instead of that creating distance, it created depth. There was room for growth, laughter, reflection, and presence. These friendships didn’t survive because we stayed the same—they flourished because we adapted. That same sense of ease ha...